Missing Mother

Releasing the Pain of Childhood Abandonment, Neglect, and Rejection

Traumatized by Bliss!

Have you ever been hurt by a positive event? I know that sounds strange. Let me explain…   A positive, blissfull event that happened in the past can be as detrimental as a traumatic event  – if you are stuck in it. Silvia Hartmann calls these frozen memories  “Guiding Stars”. Here is an example.You were a Continue reading »

Turning Off the Panic Switch

Childhood abuse can lead to severe symptoms later in life. One of my clients experienced multiple chemical sensitivity and panic attacks. Persistance and EFT helped her in surprising ways.     Megan had a very hard childhood with severe abuse and neglect. We have had many, many sessions focusing on different issues.   One of her main Continue reading »

Working on a Missing Mother with EFT

When I had my very first EFT session as a client, we went straight back to my birth. I released a deep, very painful feeling of abandonment, since my schizophrenic mother was unable to bond with me from the beginning. It was a powerful experience, and it made a believer and an EFT practitioner out Continue reading »

Overcoming an Obstacle

Using creative imagination is a powerful tool for stress relief. Regain inner balance and emotional wellness by going to your “inner spa” and removing obstacles and barriers to your goals. Make yourself comfortable. Close your eyes and go into deep relaxation.When you are ready, imagine a golden castle somewhere in the distance. This dazzling, glowing building is Continue reading »

Quiz: The Right Inner Sanctuary For You

Building an inner sanctuary, a safe space where we can retreat in difficult times, is very helpful. It restores emotional balance and peace of mind. Find out what kind of imaginary environment is right for you. We all need an inner retreat, a place within where we can go when we are longing for safety, Continue reading »

Dissolving the Guilt of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver

Being the primary caregiver of a family member who has Alzheimer’s or some other form of dementia is traumatic and demanding. There are many aspects to handle, for example: the tremendous emotional toll (loss of the established relationship with a spouse or parent which brings up fear, anger, depression and grief), administrative, legal and financial Continue reading »

What Your Heart Wants

  A broken heart happens -sooner or later- to everybody, yet strangely enough, we tend to believe that other people have heaps of money, great careers, excellent health, and are blessed with devoted spouses and perfect children. We all experience severe heart break at some time in our lives. For many it happens in childhood Continue reading »

Imagine Feeling Better Right Now

  Meadows are old, undisturbed areas that harbor a great diversity of native plants and animals. It is the perfect place to relax. Just imagine one as your personal place of emotional wellness. A sea of golden-green grass, punctuated by splashes of yellow, blue, red, and purple wildflowers. Dreamy dances of butterflies, the lazy hum Continue reading »

Absent Father Hurts Daughter’s Work Life

  Was your father absent in your childhood? If you are a woman, this may be the reason for several dilemmas in your professional life. Fathers can be physically or emotionally absent in their children’s lives for many reasons, and all of them hurt. Some of them are death, divorce, abandonment, prolonged work-related absences, or Continue reading »

Creative Imagination Helps Abused Woman

  A woman hates herself for wanting to go back to her abusive ex-husband. While traditional EFT is helpful, it is creative imagination combined with EFT that achieves the breakthrough. Robin (not her real name) had been with her physically abusive husband for many years. They are divorced now, but Robin is tortured by the Continue reading »

High Self-Esteem Is Wanted by Everybody

  Everbody wants to have high self-esteem. It just makes life so much easier, doesn't it. So why is that goal often so elusive? Just about all of us would like to see some degree of improvement in the way we perceive ourselves. If only there was a magic pill that would make us feel bold, Continue reading »

Anger! Six Ways to deal With It Effectively

  Most of us get angry once in a while – and then we feel guilty, especially if we are female. Here are some ways to handle it. I once asked a very quiet, timid "Missing Mother" client: "Do you ever get angry?" And she said: "No". "Never ever?" "No, never." Well, this is for Continue reading »

Public Exposure – Oh, the Fear and Shame

  Supposedly more people are afraid of public speaking than of death. I don't believe this. Actually given the choice, most people would head for the podium, I am quite sure of that. However, it definitely shows how frightened most of us are of being seen and heard "out there." What are we so terrified Continue reading »

Healing the Inner Wounded Child with EFT

The world is crowded with lonesome, fearful, and hurt inner children. At least that is  the impression I get when I work with women -and sometimes men- who had emotionally missing mothers and/or fathers. All of my clients suffered from early childhood trauma, they were unappreciated, neglected, abandoned, or rejected by their mothers and/or fathers.. EFT can Continue reading »

Do You Feel Invisible? Tap On It Now

Do you often feel invisible or not heard in social situations? EFT helps to ease the pain and releases old emotional baggage. Here is a script to get going.  You are probably familiar with situations like these: – You post something smart and thoughtful to one of your social networks, and nobody responds – while somebody else Continue reading »