Missing Mother

Releasing the Pain of Childhood Abandonment, Neglect, and Rejection

So, Why Do We Suffer So Much Again?

When I talk with my EFT clients about their core emotional issues and the painful feelings they have on a daily basis, they tell me this:

– They don’t feel safe in this world
– They have no real home, they don’t belong
– They feel isolated, disconnected, and alone
– They feel abandoned and rejected
– They are hypersensitive, and life is so hard
– They are never good enough, something is wrong with them
– They don’t feel appreciated for who they are

And it all started in their childhood, usually with a missing mother or an absent father. If we grew up in an atmosphere of disconnection, loneliness, severe neglect, or active abuse, we will always agonize over the question: Why? Why has this happened to me?

There can be many answers to this, like social circumstances beyond control, the unhealed emotional history of the parents, or the belief in karma coming from past lives. I don’t know about you, but reasons like that never quite satisfy me. They might explain the situation perfectly, but they don’t provide healing for the wounded heart.

So why, why, why have we been singled out, deprived of the comfort of a loving and protective family? Why have we been thrown into the dark and scary woods while everybody else is having loads of fun?

The answer to this can only be given in a spiritual context: From the perspective of your eternal soul, there is only one thing that counts: consciousness –  the expansion of consciousness.

We can grow spiritually in many ways, and not all of them are painful. However, being kicked out of our comfort zone is a time tested tool of emotional evolution since it really gets the job done, sooner or later.

By the way, one of the signs of an expanded consciousness is the -sometimes sudden- deeply compassionate awareness that nobody has continuously loads of fun. Everybody has to deal with hardship. For some people it just comes later in life, and/or they put up a better facade.

At that point, your heart grows ten seizes. And we know how much fun that can be.