Missing Mother

Releasing the Pain of Childhood Abandonment, Neglect, and Rejection

New Website, New Blog

Dear Subscribers, I am the owner of the website www.MissingMother.com, and at some point, you all have subscribed to the site’s blog. After this mail, I will suspend posting to that blog. (You do not need to unsubscribe.) The website itself is still up, and if you would like to contact me regarding EFT sessions, please Continue reading »

Finding Inner Peace In Difficult Times

My website is now mobile friendly, so you can visit it using your Smartphone or Tablet. www.missingmother.com Today is Mother’s Day, and that can be a difficult day for many of us. Here is something that can help, today and on any other day. Building an inner sanctuary, a safe space where we can retreat Continue reading »

Feeling Miserable On Valentine’s Day

Oh, these emotional triggers. If you survived or even enjoyed Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Eve, there is always Valentine’s Day with its huge potential of making you feel miserable. It’s not always because you are single while the whole wide world has coupled up and is having loads of fun on that particular day Continue reading »

Do You Feel Like An Ugly Duckling?

Many of us have felt “ugly” at some time in our lives, mostly in our childhood and adolescence.  That often included disliking our bodies (too fat, too pimpled, too style- challenged…), but what really hurt was the ugly feeling inside: I don’t belong, I don’t fit in, I am not good enough, nobody loves me… Continue reading »

New Book by Carna Coming Soon/EFT script

Dear friends, I am about to publish a Kindle book that is the first of a series. It is short, inexpensive, and you probably know that you don’t need a Kindle device to read it. THE SACRED QUEST FOR LOVE Book 1: The Way of The Ugly Duckling It is not an EFT book, but Continue reading »

The Painful Experience of “Not Belonging”

This is a report, I recently received from one of my clients. She describes an emotional experience that many of you know (I do). With her permission, I am sharing it with you. Last week, I spent about 1.5 hours sitting in a McDonald’s. Why? you would say. Well, I was there earlier in the week and Continue reading »

The Two Faces of Sadness

I have never met anybody who came from a severely dysfunctional family who was not sad. (women express it more openly, men frequently cover it up with anger).  Sadness is not necessarily the same as depression. Depression is a heavy “thing” sitting on top of you. Something is pressing or pulling you down, and there Continue reading »

The Missing Event: A Different Kind of Trauma

Usually, when we think of trauma, or any event that caused emotional pain, we remember something that has happened. It could be as severe as childhood abuse, an illness, a nasty fight with somebody we care about, or a divorce. Have you ever considered that you could be emotionally hurt or traumatized by something that Continue reading »

When You Feel That You Don’t Belong

  Here are some thoughts about the feeling “I don’t belong anywhere, and it hurts so much” with a tapping script. This is an issue that almost all of my clients have. Where does this feeling of not belonging come from? We all feel that way under certain circumstances. However, if it is a very painful feeling Continue reading »

Why We Need Personal Crisis Situations

Crisis: The wind of change in our lives may come as a gentle breeze, nudging us to move on in order to grow and unfold. However, more often than we would like, it arrives as a storm, whirling us around like an autumn leaf. And sometimes the wind of change is a violent tornado that Continue reading »

The Spiritual Side of EFT

There is an aspect of EFT that has become more and more important to me over the years as an EFT practitioner: It’s the spiritual dimension of EFT. When Gary Craig put down his ground rules for doing EFT in the early nineties, he did not want this method to become part of the New Continue reading »

Do You Have Panic Attacks? Try EFT

“Melanie” (52), mother of four children, contacted me because of feelings of abandonment and rejection by her mother and unrelenting anger at her. She also mentioned the debilitating panic attacks and the agoraphobia she experiences, mainly when she goes to a supermarket. In fact, she cannot go shopping without her husband at her side. This Continue reading »

The Trouble with Siblings

Since I grew up without siblings (I have a half sister but she is 14 years younger than I am), I have underestimated the impact of brothers and sisters in people’s lives for a long time. Without being aware of it, I always had a rather rosy picture of sweet, protective big bothers and fun-filled, Continue reading »

Going from Reacting to Responding

The English language makes a difference between reacting and responding to a person or situation. I find that immensely valuable. Let’s say somebody yells at you (it doesn’t matter why. Usually it isn’t anyway the “real” reason). Here is how you react: You either yell back, or you withdraw (physically and/or emotionally.)  Does that help to Continue reading »

Is Ballroom Dancing Sexist?

This article is a bit off topic, but it does focus on gender and relationship issues. And that is always a hot subject for people who could not rely on their parents for being good role models. “Leading” (usually done by the man) and “Following” (usually done by the woman) is an issue specific to Continue reading »

Money & Love: Tapping on Financial Troubles

Dear Readers, You have not heard from me for some time. The reason for this is that I got involved with a new adventure: Introducing EFT to the dance community (mainly ballroom). I just finished writing a book about this (“IT TAKE TWO TO TANGO – Achieving Peak Performance in Dancing with EFT”). It will Continue reading »

“Positive” EFT for Maintenance

Want to “tap in” positive phrases? Do this. It is based on John Diamond’s (pre-EFT) book “Life Energy”. He assigned certain characteristics to specific energy meridians, and the wording refers to that.  Use a loose fist or bunched-together fingertips to tap on the middle of the chest. MIDDLE OF CHEST: I have love, faith, trust, gratitude, Continue reading »

Using EFT for Performance Anxiety

They say that most people would rather die than deliver a speech in front of an audience. Well, I don’t believe that. Actually given the choice, I imagine that everybody would approach the podium quickly. However, any time we need to step up and “perform” in public (like speaking, acting, singing, dancing), an amount of Continue reading »

A Root Cause of Bad Relationships

So, here she is, the girl that has been physically or emotionally abandoned and rejected by her own mother. (Of course, the same thing can happen to a little boy.) A situation that people who were raised in a whole, happy family can never, ever understand nor do they want to. The nicest of them Continue reading »

PLAY – a poem

Here is a poem that I wrote several years ago to myself.  Lately, it became very meaningful to me:   PLAY Freckled clouds snoozing in your hair. Snapdragons breaking through your skin. Dollops of dreams jumping rope on your dog’s nose. You remember, don’t you. It’s all up in the air, isn’t it, you serious Continue reading »