Finding Inner Peace In Difficult Times

My website is now mobile friendly, so you can visit it using your Smartphone or Tablet. Today is Mother’s Day, and that can be a difficult day for many of us. Here is something that can help, today and on any other day. Building an inner sanctuary, a safe space where we can retreat Continue reading »

Feeling Miserable On Valentine’s Day

Oh, these emotional triggers. If you survived or even enjoyed Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Eve, there is always Valentine’s Day with its huge potential of making you feel miserable. It’s not always because you are single while the whole wide world has coupled up and is having loads of fun on that particular day Continue reading »

Do You Feel Like An Ugly Duckling?

Many of us have felt “ugly” at some time in our lives, mostly in our childhood and adolescence.  That often included disliking our bodies (too fat, too pimpled, too style- challenged…), but what really hurt was the ugly feeling inside: I don’t belong, I don’t fit in, I am not good enough, nobody loves me… Continue reading »

The Painful Experience of “Not Belonging”

This is a report, I recently received from one of my clients. She describes an emotional experience that many of you know (I do). With her permission, I am sharing it with you. Last week, I spent about 1.5 hours sitting in a McDonald’s. Why? you would say. Well, I was there earlier in the week and Continue reading »

The Two Faces of Sadness

I have never met anybody who came from a severely dysfunctional family who was not sad. (women express it more openly, men frequently cover it up with anger).  Sadness is not necessarily the same as depression. Depression is a heavy “thing” sitting on top of you. Something is pressing or pulling you down, and there Continue reading »

The Missing Event: A Different Kind of Trauma

Usually, when we think of trauma, or any event that caused emotional pain, we remember something that has happened. It could be as severe as childhood abuse, an illness, a nasty fight with somebody we care about, or a divorce. Have you ever considered that you could be emotionally hurt or traumatized by something that Continue reading »

When You Feel That You Don’t Belong

  Here are some thoughts about the feeling “I don’t belong anywhere, and it hurts so much” with a tapping script. This is an issue that almost all of my clients have. Where does this feeling of not belonging come from? We all feel that way under certain circumstances. However, if it is a very painful feeling Continue reading »

Why We Need Personal Crisis Situations

Crisis: The wind of change in our lives may come as a gentle breeze, nudging us to move on in order to grow and unfold. However, more often than we would like, it arrives as a storm, whirling us around like an autumn leaf. And sometimes the wind of change is a violent tornado that Continue reading »

The Trouble with Siblings

Since I grew up without siblings (I have a half sister but she is 14 years younger than I am), I have underestimated the impact of brothers and sisters in people’s lives for a long time. Without being aware of it, I always had a rather rosy picture of sweet, protective big bothers and fun-filled, Continue reading »

Going from Reacting to Responding

The English language makes a difference between reacting and responding to a person or situation. I find that immensely valuable. Let’s say somebody yells at you (it doesn’t matter why. Usually it isn’t anyway the “real” reason). Here is how you react: You either yell back, or you withdraw (physically and/or emotionally.)  Does that help to Continue reading »

“Positive” EFT for Maintenance

Want to “tap in” positive phrases? Do this. It is based on John Diamond’s (pre-EFT) book “Life Energy”. He assigned certain characteristics to specific energy meridians, and the wording refers to that.  Use a loose fist or bunched-together fingertips to tap on the middle of the chest. MIDDLE OF CHEST: I have love, faith, trust, gratitude, Continue reading »

The Gifts of Highly Sensitive People

Recently, I re-read Elaine Aron’s groundbreaking book The Highly Sensitive Person. Many of you will recognize themselves as being in that category. You are easily overwhelmed by loud noises, strong smells and crowds of expressive people. You have been labeled as too sensitive as a child, are easily hurt by the negative energy of others, Continue reading »

Getting Down to Business with EFT

Everybody who has put much energy, time, and resources into the business of their dreams and cannot make it work financially knows how extremely frustrating and scary that can be. And everybody who is stuck in an underpaid, boring job is bound to experience negative feelings on a daily basis. Not to mention the stress Continue reading »

When Money & Love Are Related

Have you noticed how similar our language patterns are when we talk about the lack of money – and love? Always a struggle…never getting what I want and need…not worthy…this yearning… Maybe it is time to connect the two and tap on this painful “not enough” feeling. Doing EFT, you might discover some connections you Continue reading »

Hurtful Questions You Never Forget

Mothers and fathers can do serious emotional damage to their children by asking them aggressive rhetorical questions. Do any of these remind you of your childhood? – What (the hell) is wrong with you? – Can’t you get anything right? – Why can’t you be more like (Bill, Jane)? – Why do you get more Continue reading »

Are You Always Trying Too Hard?

If your mother (or father) did not approve of you, criticized you all the time, and generally did not appreciate you for who you are, you tend to try too hard to get it right for the rest of your life. You have a need to be perfect even if it doesn’t matter, you are Continue reading »

So, Why Do We Suffer So Much Again?

When I talk with my EFT clients about their core emotional issues and the painful feelings they have on a daily basis, they tell me this: – They don’t feel safe in this world – They have no real home, they don’t belong – They feel isolated, disconnected, and alone – They feel abandoned and rejected Continue reading »

Rendezvous with Cupid

I had a long heart-to-heart talk with Cupid about LOVE.  We agreed that it actually has nothing to do with chocolates in heart-shaped boxes. (although I am a chocoholic). And it does not make you happy automatically. In fact, it can pierce your heart, sadden and scare you. When did love hurt you for the Continue reading »

EFT For Feeling Not Good Enough

Men and women who had an absent father or a missing mother (physically or emotionally) in their childhood, often feel not good enough. EFT protocol for tapping on “I am not good enough”. Continue working on your personal memories, emotions, and body sensations. KARATE CHOP Even though I never feel good enough, I deeply and Continue reading »