Finding Inner Peace In Difficult Times

My website is now mobile friendly, so you can visit it using your Smartphone or Tablet. www.missingmother.com Today is Mother’s Day, and that can be a difficult day for many of us. Here is something that can help, today and on any other day. Building an inner sanctuary, a safe space where we can retreat Continue reading »

New Book by Carna Coming Soon/EFT script

Dear friends, I am about to publish a Kindle book that is the first of a series. It is short, inexpensive, and you probably know that you don’t need a Kindle device to read it. THE SACRED QUEST FOR LOVE Book 1: The Way of The Ugly Duckling It is not an EFT book, but Continue reading »

The Two Faces of Sadness

I have never met anybody who came from a severely dysfunctional family who was not sad. (women express it more openly, men frequently cover it up with anger).  Sadness is not necessarily the same as depression. Depression is a heavy “thing” sitting on top of you. Something is pressing or pulling you down, and there Continue reading »

Why We Need Personal Crisis Situations

Crisis: The wind of change in our lives may come as a gentle breeze, nudging us to move on in order to grow and unfold. However, more often than we would like, it arrives as a storm, whirling us around like an autumn leaf. And sometimes the wind of change is a violent tornado that Continue reading »

Going from Reacting to Responding

The English language makes a difference between reacting and responding to a person or situation. I find that immensely valuable. Let’s say somebody yells at you (it doesn’t matter why. Usually it isn’t anyway the “real” reason). Here is how you react: You either yell back, or you withdraw (physically and/or emotionally.)  Does that help to Continue reading »

“Positive” EFT for Maintenance

Want to “tap in” positive phrases? Do this. It is based on John Diamond’s (pre-EFT) book “Life Energy”. He assigned certain characteristics to specific energy meridians, and the wording refers to that.  Use a loose fist or bunched-together fingertips to tap on the middle of the chest. MIDDLE OF CHEST: I have love, faith, trust, gratitude, Continue reading »

PLAY – a poem

Here is a poem that I wrote several years ago to myself.  Lately, it became very meaningful to me:   PLAY Freckled clouds snoozing in your hair. Snapdragons breaking through your skin. Dollops of dreams jumping rope on your dog’s nose. You remember, don’t you. It’s all up in the air, isn’t it, you serious Continue reading »

Don’t Tap on Stress Talk!

Do this instead: http://www.eftfree.net/2012/06/02/dont-tap-on-stress-talk-do-this-instead/   …and then read some of the other useful EFT articles on that site.    

The Gifts of Highly Sensitive People

Recently, I re-read Elaine Aron’s groundbreaking book The Highly Sensitive Person. Many of you will recognize themselves as being in that category. You are easily overwhelmed by loud noises, strong smells and crowds of expressive people. You have been labeled as too sensitive as a child, are easily hurt by the negative energy of others, Continue reading »

Using EFT for Spiritual Growth

Since EFT is such a wonderful method to work from aches to zits on everything, we sometimes forget its awesome spiritual context. Gary Craig who developed EFT, has stated clearly: The main purpose of EFT is to pave the way towards love’s Presence (i.e. Grace). Our physical and emotional wounds tend to distract us from Continue reading »

Want a Heart of Gold?

Check out the new EFT pattern “Heart of Gold” created by Silvia Hartmann. It is simple and empowering on many levels, from the physical to the spiritual. I HAVE A HEART OF GOLD   

Are You Always Trying Too Hard?

If your mother (or father) did not approve of you, criticized you all the time, and generally did not appreciate you for who you are, you tend to try too hard to get it right for the rest of your life. You have a need to be perfect even if it doesn’t matter, you are Continue reading »

How to De-stress Quickly with EFT

There are days when your back hurts, the cat throws up in your bed, the car battery dies, your boss is way too bossy, and your emotionally missing mother tells you coldly to get over your childhood sexual abuse. Or something like that. Days when you are stressed out to the max and really, really Continue reading »

Overcoming an Obstacle

Using creative imagination is a powerful tool for stress relief. Regain inner balance and emotional wellness by going to your “inner spa” and removing obstacles and barriers to your goals. Make yourself comfortable. Close your eyes and go into deep relaxation.When you are ready, imagine a golden castle somewhere in the distance. This dazzling, glowing building is Continue reading »

Quiz: The Right Inner Sanctuary For You

Building an inner sanctuary, a safe space where we can retreat in difficult times, is very helpful. It restores emotional balance and peace of mind. Find out what kind of imaginary environment is right for you. We all need an inner retreat, a place within where we can go when we are longing for safety, Continue reading »

Dissolving the Guilt of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver

Being the primary caregiver of a family member who has Alzheimer’s or some other form of dementia is traumatic and demanding. There are many aspects to handle, for example: the tremendous emotional toll (loss of the established relationship with a spouse or parent which brings up fear, anger, depression and grief), administrative, legal and financial Continue reading »

What Your Heart Wants

  A broken heart happens -sooner or later- to everybody, yet strangely enough, we tend to believe that other people have heaps of money, great careers, excellent health, and are blessed with devoted spouses and perfect children. We all experience severe heart break at some time in our lives. For many it happens in childhood Continue reading »

Imagine Feeling Better Right Now

  Meadows are old, undisturbed areas that harbor a great diversity of native plants and animals. It is the perfect place to relax. Just imagine one as your personal place of emotional wellness. A sea of golden-green grass, punctuated by splashes of yellow, blue, red, and purple wildflowers. Dreamy dances of butterflies, the lazy hum Continue reading »